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It’s easy meeting girls in college – they are all over the place! Bars, parties, the library, the dining halls, and football games.

They are everywhere.

The fact of that matter is that school is very conducive to meeting women. And that makes the process of getting dates much easier than it normally would be.

But what happens when you get out of college and enter *gulp* the real world?

While in school, you have a number of activities, sports, clubs, study sessions, and all types of other social gatherings to help you meet girls, once you’re out of school, your life will typically consist of two things:

Work and home.

You wake up, you go to your job, and then you go home, eat, go to bed, and repeat everything the next day.

The transition to entering the rat race after college is done can be depressing for a lot of men, because their lives become entirely centered around their jobs.

This means that the pool of women they have to choose from is limited to thewomen they meet at their jobs, or the women who live close to them.

And whenever your options are limited, that’s NEVER a good thing.

The key to meeting lots of great, high quality women after graduating from college is to keep being as social as possible, and don’t let your life be consumed by your job.

Here are some tips to help you meet women after college:

TIP #1: Use The Internet

This should seem like a no-brainer. Online dating is great for men who are too busy to go out and meet new girls. So you should always be using the internet to meet new women. This is probably the fastest and easiest way to meet girls.

TIP #2: Get Out Of The House

I’ll admit, the last thing I want to do after a hard day at work is to go out somewhere. But ultimately I do, because how else am I going to meet people?

It’s important to make time for your love life. So at least once a week, make sure to spend a day out of the home with the intention of meeting women. You can go on a date, or out anywhere with the intention of meeting women.

TIP #3: Take Advantage Of Errands

No matter how hard we work, we still have to do things throughout the course of our daily lives. Whether it be going grocery shopping, or taking your suit to the dry cleaners, there’s always something we have to do for ourselves.

When this occurs, don’t just rush to get your errands done. Take advantage of opportunities when you see them! After all, lots of girls have to go grocery shopping and drop off clothes for dry cleaning as well. So if you see a girl you find attractive while running errands, take some time and meet her!

TIP #4: Happy Hour

The hour before work starts and around the time work typically ends is a great time to meet girls – if you’re in the right place! In the morning, it’s coffee shops women go to for their morning cup of java. After work, it’s the bar with the cheap drinks.

Go to these places at the right time, and you’ll find tons of women just hanging out, waiting to grab a drink before heading home. Use this time to your advantage! Women L-O-V-E to be social in both these places.

TIP #5: Throw Parties

In college, a great way to meet girls is to throw a party and invite them over. Well, that doesn’t change after you’re out of school. Throwing parties is a great way to meet new people!

Organize a get together somewhere, make sure there’s plenty to eat and drink, and invite everyone you know to show up. And have them invite everyone THEY know as well!

Being the “Party Guy” can really score you a lot of points with girls who are looking to have a bit of excitement in their lives. And it can be a lot of fun too!

Tip #6: Pursue Your Passions

Don’t let work rule your life. Continue to pursue your passions. If you like college basketball, continue to go out to games. If you like live music, continue to go to concerts. Whatever it is you enjoy, go out and do it, and while you’re doing it, meet as many women as you possibly can.

After all, chances are there are some girls who share your passions! And what better way to start a conversation than to talk about something you both love?

The worst thing you can do is just spend all your time working and watching TV. That won’t get you anywhere. Just take action, get out of the house, and know how to start conversations with women.

You’ll get better, and once you do, you’ll find meeting women in the real world is easy and fun!!!

You have her talking now, right? Good! Here’s another important part of flirting: the act of taking turns!

Here’s a situation that is common – a guy is talking to a girl he successfully opened, and the conversation just sort of ends. The guy doesn’t know exactly why. So what happened?

It could be a bunch of things, but perhaps the most common mistake that men (and women) make is lack of recognizing the tempo of conversation, and that they need to take turns. The vocal inflection of another person will indicate WHEN it is time to talk.

Too often, people who are frightened of speaking, when finally given the chance, will tend to blabber like there is no tomorrow. Understandably so – it’s NICE to have someone paying attention to you.

But true rapport and conversation isn’t like this. And after time, a blabbermouth will eventually run people off.

In a recent article, I wrote about vocal signals, one of them being the change in intonation when finishing a sentence, indicating it’s time for the other person to speak.

I’ll say this without hesitation – you really need to learn these signals. You can be the most eloquent speaker on the planet, but if you don’t let people get a word in, you might end up despised by others.

On the opposite end of that, you can end up being worse – the guy who puts ZERO effort into any conversation, making the other person do all the talking by showing no interest.

Either of these situations is bad… and if you don’t pay attention, you might end up AS one of these guys!

So how do we avoid this? By allotting equal time for each person. You should speak the same amount of time as the other person.

Most of the time, a pause is a sufficient signal. But it isn’t always the case. In the earlier articles I wrote about in the nonverbal section, there are some nonverbal cues that will allow us to see when it’s time.

The first is eye contact – the woman might glance away while finishing the sentence. As well, there is the matter of rising and falling intonation – an intonation change will indicate, as well, that they are finished speaking. Listen also for a drop in volume at the end of the sentence – it’s the final clue.

So we have these cues: length of their turn, pause, intonation at the end of the sentence, eyes turning away at the end of the sentence, and a drop of volume. If any of these happen in combination, it’s usually a good sign that it is your turn to speak.

When you are taking turns, try to get EQUAL lengths of time between you and the other person. The end result? You will come across as a fantastic conversationalist!

Soon, I’ll write about the actual WHAT of conversations – what you should actually SAY when speaking to another person!